Sometimes it’s hard to believe your life could ever look differently, I remember waking up one day, looking around and thinking, “Is this all there is?” I would read about other peoples success stories and wonder, “What is my life purpose?” That’s when my journey began.
I am not saying I have it all figured out, but I have learned a couple tips for getting unstuck.
Tip #1: Your beliefs are habits of thought. That’s right, just habits.
Just like biting your nails, you don’t plan to do it, you just find your hand in your mouth chomping away. This is how we run on automatic. Consider this, everything you do right down to the relationships you have with your family and friends, likes and dislikes, and definitely your opinions and beliefs, are ideas that you have practiced over time and they have become second nature.
We drive a car and put on our shoes a certain way, even have the toilet paper facing a preferred direction. We believe these habits define who we are, but they’re just habits. We learned them in a number of ways, by family, piers, teachers, TV, and then we repeated them over and over until they became our automatic response to the world around us.
You’re already feeling better now, aren’t you? I knew it.
Tip #2: Practice makes perfect.
I know you have heard this a million times, and it’s true. How many times did you first grade teacher make you practice your p’s and q’s so you would remember which way they went? Until it became a habit, right? I bet you wouldn’t even have to think about it now.
So what else might be second nature? How about your beliefs around the kind of jobs you will get, what kind of money you will make, what kind of house you will live in, what people like or don’t like about you. What messages do TV commercials give us about the way we should think, look and dress, or what product will make us cool (which really means give us value). How do you see your life in 5 years?
Tip #3: Habits are learned behaviors, and it takes approximately 30 days to consciously create new ones.
Your habits are probably standing in the way of your dreams. Why do I say this? Because, if an inspired thought comes along, your mind will start to give you all the reasons why it won’t work. If the thought appeals to you and you think, “I’d really like to try that,” say YES to it. Don’t allow your mind to run through the list of why it will never be. That’s the first habit you want to change. It doesn’t matter if you don’t know how to get it yet.
Tip #4: Re-write those negative statements, and end each one with “Anything’s Possible!”
Maybe you believe there’s not enough time or money, I’ll bet you have an hour a week. And, your not opening your business tomorrow, your just in the brainstorming phase. When you follow your inspiration, people and new ideas show up to help you. If you want a TV show, start on you tube. I got my motorcycle license at 50, and it was scary, but I did it. Practice becoming your own biggest fan and take a chance on yourself.
Henry Ford said, “Whether you think you can or you can’t, either way you’re right.