Allowing Your Dog on Your Bed – Should Or Should Not?


Having your dog on your bed may be interesting, however, have you thought about the implications? Below are 6 things you should remember before allowing your dog on your bed.


1. The breed of dog and the nature of that breed. The main issue is one of dominance and some say that allowing your dog on your bed is allowing them to assert their dominance over you and your territory.


2. Your dog’s individual character and temperament. If your dog has a tendency to show signs of dominance then it is not a good idea to let them on your bed. This is likely to make the problem worse.


3. Is your dog clean? Who wants a dirty, smelly dog on their bed? Well okay it takes all sorts, but I like a certain standard of hygiene myself! Some would say it is unhygienic to have even a clean dog on your bed. I disagree – they are just as hygienic as another human in my opinion.


4. Is your dog free of fleas or other parasites? I definitely wouldn’t want to allow my bed to get infested with parasites, although according to one of those documentaries I saw, it is anyway! Magnified, these bed bugs look like massive scary monsters with huge biting mandibles. Enough of that, it gives me the shivers. Apparently they even live in our eyelashes, yes I know, you have heard enough.


5. How big is your dog and is there room on your bed? There’s a big difference between a Poodle and a St Bernard! I am not saying it is impossible for large dogs; it depends on the size of your bed and the number of people in it!. My Golden Retriever used to get on the bed and lay cross-ways at the bottom whilst I was in the bathroom washing. I would get in bed and also lay cross ways, or have to get in a tight foetal position to fit in. I am not saying you should have to do this, you can get them to move but aaah, she looked so comfy.


6. Will the dog get off if you tell it to? This is key because you must maintain control. The trick is that they must get off when you want them to otherwise you definitely have made a rod for your own back and you may encourage other dominant behaviours. My dog Hazel would always get off herself about 10 minutes after the light was out and always if I told her to.


Now I have a new King Charles Spaniel puppy we have started up a little routine. Daisy sleeps in my bedroom in a dog crate. I put her soft bed inside it and she is happy there. As she is so young (9 weeks as I write), I get up about 3am and take her outside for a wee. Then again about 6am. At this point I take her into bed with me and we have cuddles until I am ready to get up. It is so lovely having that little furry creature next to you, feeling her breathe and smelling the top of her head! I don’t go back to sleep in case I turn and squash her but I have a nice dozy hour as she sleeps peacefully. It all seems to be working well and she does not whine to come into my bed. If that happened I would have to think again but all is well just now.


If you want to allow your dog on your bed, remember the golden rules:


It is YOUR bed and YOUR territory


The dog is there by YOUR invitation


The dog gets off when YOU say


If your dog cannot honour these rules, they must stay in their own bed!